Surviving The Single Season

Oh, here we go –

Being single at holiday parties and family get togethers are never fun, And if I hear Aunt Sally say “So any new Boyfriends?” One more time I think I’ll scream.

The holidays are full of romantic things to do with a significant other.

Unfortunately, if you’re single it can be very depressing.

Yes, I am single and that’s okay.

I don’t believe people should date unless they see potential in the relationship.

Call that a fairytale, but I am a hopeless romantic. Love should be effortless and magical. So many people struggle with accepting love

But why are we afraid to love? The act of falling in love is rather treacherous. Opening yourself up to someone, discussing your deepest most true thoughts now sounds like a dream. I think society has raveled a timeline of when these events shall occur. As a 22 year old single woman I have discovered that being in love with someone is a variable. “It can come in a flash and be gone in an instant” In this battle we discover our true selves, what we want, deserve and create.

Nowadays dating consists of internet talk – why?

According to Pew Research 15% of adults have used online dating.  I hate to burst anyones bubble – how is meeting someone on tinder or bumble romantic? Its weird. I want to meet the love of my life by coincidence.

Chance…

Is that even real anymore? I have dated countless boys in hopes that they would be able to satisfy me but it went no where. Some boys I have loved deeply and some made me even question my existence. Heartbreak has made me a warrior.

I could go on for paragraphs at some horror stories in my dating life, but we can save that for another time.

My point is, don’t date because you’re lonely. Date because you dare to challenge someone with a mind similar to your own.

To create memories together and cheer each other on.

PLEASE DO NOT SETTLE FOR ORDINARY!!!

Here are some tips to being single around the holidays

• Focus on your own happiness
• Have fun with friends
• Do little things for yourself (Treat yo self)
• Ask yourself “Would someone by your side complete you?” (The answer should be no)
• Workout (Improves mental health)
• Take yourself on dates (We love self-care)

Life is far too long to be unhappy with someone who doesn’t challenge you.

Being single is okay. Create your own masterpiece and when the time is right someone will intertwine with their own. Love is hard to come by but when you get the real deal Oh my, will it be amazing. So in spite of this single season, just know it is for a reason.

Lastly, Have fun and enjoy all of the holiday festivities!

With love,

Xoxo Samantha