Hello Friends!

Wow, it’s hard to believe we are already through Thanksgiving. The holidays allow us to slow down and enjoy the last few moments of the year. However, it may not be as jolly as you would think for many. I want to acknowledge that many people are also hurting this time of year. Whether that be from a family member being sick, a recent breakup, family issues, or celebrating the holidays after the loss of a friend or loved one. 

This is important to remember as you run errands in town or at work. Remember that every person, whether you know them personally or not, is going through their own battles, so please be kind to others throughout this time. Mental health is so important, and we must make an extra effort to give each other grace throughout these next couple of months. 

Here are some things I find helpful during the holidays for those missing a loved one around these times. 

1. Honor their traditions: My mom LOVED to create cookie boxes for family and friends each holiday. It took me a couple years to build the strength to continue her tradition. Still, now I can happily say I can carry on my mom’s tradition and enjoy every minute of it. 
2. Go out of your way to do an activity they loved: My grandmother was a thrift store maniac growing up! She loved to find unique gifts for each of us that made her laugh. This has carried on to me, and I feel her presence whenever I am in a thrift store. 
3. Reach out to friends/family: The holidays are not only about family; friends matter, too. Take some time out of your day to send a friend a friendly message or phone call. Honestly, you don’t know how much this could mean to someone. 

Now, for the not-so-fun stuff: around this time last year, I was in a serious relationship with someone I thought I would marry. Fast forward to now I am single, and I am not going to lie; it does sting a little to see all of the happy couples on social media. By all means, I am not jealous of them, but I do feel a little sad occasionally. Being lonely during the holidays can be challenging, but that doesn’t mean it has to be miserable. 

Reasons to enjoy being single during the holidays:

1. More freedom with making plans: I can spend more free time creating my hallmark-inspired holiday. This may sound cliché, but I hope to visit Northern Arizona to see snow and sip hot cocoa. It sounds so fun!
2. Save money on gifts: Saving money on gifts In this economy?? Heck Yeah! However, I do miss shopping for men’s clothing. I suppose my dad and brother will be styling after this holiday season! 
3. Spend more attention on personal self-care: Now is the time to spoil yourself; I sense a much-needed spa day soon! As for no-cost self-care, I have loved getting outside and walking to soak in God’s beautiful creation. 

Most importantly, please take some time for yourself. It is okay to be sad or to heal from heartbreak. Don’t let others get you down for needing to take care of yourself because that is truly the most important thing at the end of the day, regardless of the season. 

Remember that you are loved by God and so many others, so be nice to yourself. Sending you love and light! 

Sweetly,

Samantha